Check out our new podcast, I Want It That Way, which delves into the difficult and downright dirty parts of a relationship, and find more on our Soundcloud page.When you start dating someone new, the number one thing you start thinking about is probably when you should make your relationship official. Wondering when to start calling that dude you’ve been hooking up with your boyfriend can be super stressful."For instance, if you keep dating married men, you’ve got a type — married men." Let's all hope that is not your type, for your heart's sake."If you keep dating wealthy men who are conservative, you’ve got a type." Definitely not my type."All at first glance looked like very girly-girls, but then upon further reflection I remembered the adventurous activities we enjoyed and the swagger they all had and were unquestionably just like one of the guys but smelled much better," he says.
"Types are fine if you’re happy and healthy, but if you keep winding up in unhappy situations, dating outside your type is an excellent way to expand your dating pool and your experiences," Masini says. Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage?"The person who is really your type has some common interests and ideals, good character, trustworthy and loves you." So if you're with someone who shares your interests and ideals, has a strong character and is totally, madly, deeply in love with you, guess what? "By the time you're out of your teen years, you really should have learned that it’s not what’s outside that counts, but what’s inside that counts; so stop judging people by their looks alone." When you meet someone, close your eyes and try to tap into their personality — not their looks."Stop worrying if he’s cute, or how tall or short he is, or whether she has blonde hair and long legs, and start looking for a mate with substance, style, and a whole lot of soul.""Boxing oneself into a type is a big mistake in dating," Nicole Di Rocco, dating and relationship coach for executive women, tells Bustle. I asked nine relationship experts to talk about dating your type, and though they all had different takes, it seems as though type-based dating is a bad idea, especially if you have been unlucky in love in the past.First off, if you're dating one particular type over and over and things aren't going well, it might be because you've fallen into a type trap. Fox recently told Khloé Kardashian on her talk show, Kocktails With Khloé, "the biggest problem I've probably had is that I dated body parts for way too long." Sounds like she has a type!Especially if things haven't been working out for you by dating the same kinds of people over and over."This is especially something to consider if it keeps not working out when we choose the our type over and over again, and it keeps not working," Martinez says."People do talk about dating your type, but I think it is the wrong way to go, and a pattern to be broken," Better Help telehealth counselor and psychologist Nikki Martinez tells Bustle."When we pigeonhole ourselves with a certain type, we miss out on many people and opportunities that might actually be a better fit than what we assume is right for us." Keeping an open mind will make things a lot more fun for you, and afford you a better chance at finding someone right for you."I encourage my clients to get crystal-clear on their values and focus on how the man makes her feel and treats her," she says."In this way, expanding outside of her type allows for the relationship she desires to reveal itself sooner." So if you're set on a type, let it go — you'll have a better shot at finding someone actually worth your time."People do tend to have types, especially if they live in homogenous communities," New York–based relationship expert and author April Masini tells Bustle.