This is when you exchange numbers via the app in order to communicate more effectively about the IRL date you're trying to arrange.
He says he doesn’t use the internet much on weekdays, but I’m reluctant to give anyone my phone number until I have chatted with them for a period of time. This is where I came up with the idea (espoused in Why He Disappeared) of “effective vs. Then, presuming a few phone calls go well, you want to meet him for a safe coffee date at on a Tuesday, so you can have a quick exit strategy if you don’t click. I spend about a half-hour explaining it in my Finding the One Online audio program, which helps women flirt and connect with quality men online.
"One can throw out their cell after this as a courtesy to connect if someone is running late or they can't find each other at the meetup," explains dating expert Meredith Golden of Spoon Meet
You don't want to be late because there are two ramen spots with the same name, and you have to check in with your date via an app five minutes before you're supposed to meet.
That said, if you give your number to a match too soon, you run the risk of endless banter and date rescheduling that never results in an actual meet-and-greet.
"It's good practice to meet, otherwise [a] 'text buddy' develops, which no one looking for a relationship ever enjoys," explains Golden.