He says, "If you remain abstinent until marriage, you're sexually pure." But then he says, "I think petting's all right.If you have genuine feelings for a person, if you love them, and if you are truly close to them, then what you're doing is OK." Like Tim, many high school students —including a lot of Christians—are committed to sexual abstinence.Chastity and boundaries aren’t just about not having sex.Boundaries should be in place in all areas of our lives – intellectual, emotional, social, spiritual and physical. Here are some questions to get you started: Use boundaries as a guide when you start a relationship, or strengthen the relationship you’re in right now.
" Ever wonder what other Christians think about sex? What we found were some misconceptions and unclear boundaries. Tim's a Christian who believes wholeheartedly in abstinence.
It’s just that asking ‘how far is too far’ is like asking ‘how much can we do together before we start sinning.’ If you truly love the other person and desire to will their good, you’re going to work to get them to Heaven, not to get them into the confessional.
Physical affection in a romantic relationship doesn’t exist on a spectrum ranging from light kisses on the cheek to having sex with each other.
I got to know him better during that summer through phone calls and messages, and the night of my birthday, he asked me out on a date. It would have been so easy for me to fall head over heels for Joseph, throwing caution to the wind.
I hadn’t ever dated before, so I didn’t have a lot of experience in how relationships worked (except the stack of books that I’d read on the subject). In romantic relationships, we can mistake boundaries as a bad thing, or think they’re unnecessary.